Do you want to exist in life or live life like an amazing journey?  Sometimes life can feel out of control and it can make you feel like you are sitting in the backseat simply watching it go by.  What if I told you that your life can be what you imagine it to be.  Remember when you were a kid and you had big dreams of what you wanted to be and do when you grew up?  Did you become what you dreamed?  If not, it is never too late.  Maybe you are stuck in a job you hate, your relationships are not healthy, or you are living in an unhealthy body.  All of these are modifiable problems.  In your journey, you are only halfway through.  You have many more adventures to enjoy and I bet you would like the remaining ones to be the best.  Making your NEW JOURNEY  the best yet will take planning.

1. Assess what fills your energy bank.  What makes you happy? What are not getting enough of that makes your energy bank full?  Try writing down 5 things that give you energy and make you feel good.  Then beside each one, write down when you last did those things.  If it has been over a month for any of them, it has been too long.  We all have the same Universal Needs and when these needs are not met, we will feel a variety of unpleasant feelings.
2. Assess what things may be draining your energy bank.  What makes your frustrated, sad, anxious, or angry?  What things, people, or places are draining you?  Write them down and determine which ones you can fix.  Are you in a draining relationship, a frustrating job, or not being kind to yourself?  These are often modifiable with the right coaching.
3. Once you have figured out what you need and don't need in your life, you are ready to begin planning your NEW JOURNEY.  Write down the vision you have of yourself in 3 months.  It may sound something like this...I am 15 pounds lighter and wearing clothes that make me feel better about myself.  I am in a happy relationship because I took the time to spend more time with my spouse and we talk about our needs.  
4. Write down goals to help you become your vision.  Start with a few 3 month goals that are attainable, then write a weekly goal for each.  Here is an example of a 3 month goal:  I will walk briskly 5 times a week for 30 minutes with my spouse and use that opportunity to talk and connect.  And an example of a 1 week goal:  I will walk briskly 3 times a week for 20 minutes with my spouse.

Now you are starting your NEW JOURNEY that will help you reach your dreams.  Just because you are all grown up doesn't mean you can't wish and attain the life you dream of...it actually means you have more control over your dreams than ever before.

"Growth is not steady, forward, upward progression.  It is instead a switchback trail; three steps forward, two back, one around the bushes, and a few simply standing, before another forward leap." - Dorothy Corkville Briggs

It can be discouraging when you attempt to make changes in our lives only to fail over and over again.  But this brings up the question, was it really a failure?  The fact that you tried means you made it to the 4th level of change and you were only 1 level away from a permanent change.  Good for you!  The reason why most people are not successful with change is the plan for success was not fully laid out.  The key to successful change is more than simply setting a goal.  The goal must be smart and achievable and you must identify your motivators.  You must address the barriers to progress.  This is the part were most people lose their way.  Either you did not effectively identify the barriers or you simply blew them off in an attempt to make a run at your goal without a clear path.  Your must be honest with yourself when planning for success by not overlooking these barriers and then make strategies to help you mange them.  Wellness coaches are trained to help you grow and avoid to many steps back, too many steps off the path, or standing still.  Lets take that leap!

No one likes to feel hungry, just the stomach growling alone is very annoying.  What many people don't realize is the effect being hungry has on your mental state.  Brain fog, confusion, and emotional intensities are often associated with low blood sugar. Glucose (blood sugar)  increases your level of self-control.  Therefore when your blood sugar is in the normal range, you make better choices.  Now take a minute to think about how this can effect different aspects of your life.  For example, a recent study performed at Ohio State University, found that married couples acted more aggressively and were more frustrated with their spouse when their blood sugar was low. Getting mad at your spouse is a part of being married, but if you can better manage your anger, it would improve your marital happiness.  


So how can you avoid being hangry, yes it is a word?  

• Choose foods with a low glycemic index.  This will help keep your blood sugar level and avoid severe highs and lows.
• Eat 6 times a day.  This also helps to maintain a normal blood sugar level.  Have you ever went a long period of time without eating and then binged on high carb foods because you were so hungry?  This is the lack of self-control brought on by the low blood sugar
• Eat breakfast within an hour of waking.  Breakfast gives you the first dose of sugar for the day and is needed to raise your blood sugar to a normal level after fasting all night.

 

We are vastly different in how we look, feel, act, think, and believe.  But we all share one thing in common, our need for empathy.  Empathy can be described as a respectful understanding of someone's unique experiences, thoughts, and feelings.  Empathy is the abililty to put yourself in someone's elses shoes and let go of your judgement.  We have a need to be heard and understood by others.  Think back to a time when your need for empathy was met and how it made you feel to know that the other person was able to understand where you were coming from. Often the most memorable moments are the ones where someone totally opposite of you or a complete stranger provided empathy.  Empathy does not require you to agree with the other person.  Your beliefs and values make you who you are just as they do for someone else.

I challenge you to remember empathy when dealing with others. Sometimes just listening to someone without judgement, criticism, or fixing can provide a path for a connection.  You may find that embracing empathy can open your heart and mind to the uniqueness of the world around you.

What a wonderful day friday is.  It is the day that reminds us of how hard we have worked all week and to start to slow things down for the next two days.  Unfortunately that is where we go wrong.  We don't slow down for those two days.  What ever happened to relaxing on the weekend?  In today's fast paced world we have to remember to take care of ourselves.  Even if we have the weekend jam packed with activities here is a great way to just relax and be in the moment.

Sit or lie down outside for 15 minutes.  During that time start by looking around.  What do you notice?  The trees starting to bud, the branch broken by the winter ice...I guess I should trim that right now before I forget.  WAIT!  Make sure you are keeping your mind clear of the things that are in the future and just be in the moment.  The green grass that is starting to peak through, the squirrel running up the tree.  Now close your eyes.  What do you hear?  A bird singing, the wind blowing through the trees.  What do you feel?  Warm sun on your skin, gentle breeze blowing through your hair, the spider crawling on your arm!  After 15 minutes you will feel centered and relaxed and more in touch with the world around you.  This is a easy practice that can be done everyday to improve your wellness.  Take time for you.  YOU ARE WORTH IT!

I challenge you to sit down and write down 10 Reasons to Get Healthy.  Here are my 10 to help you get started:
1. I want to look good
2. I want to live to be 100
3. I have to walk the walk
4. I don't want to have regrets
5. I want to be a role model for my daughter
6. I don't want to be in pain when I am older
7. I want to have energy and feel great
8. I want to enjoy all life has to offer
9. I refuse to let the companies feeding us all the crap and making toxic meds control me
10. I AM WORTH IT!